SEX

Do you have a great sex life? Not that we should compare ourselves to others, but if you are curious then read on...

Dr. Gottman recently highlighted an online study of the sexual lives of 70,000 people in 24 countries, which showed that couples who have a great sex life are doing the same set of things.

·     They say “I love you” every day and mean it

·     They kiss one another passionately for no reason

·     They give surprise romantic gifts

·     They are physically affectionate, even in public

·     They keep playing and having fun together

·     They cuddle

·     They make sex a priority, not the last item on a long to-do list

·     They know what turns their partners on and off erotically

·     They stay good friends

·     They can talk comfortably about their sex life

·     They have weekly dates

·     They take romantic vacations

·     They are mindful of turning toward each other

In short, they turn toward one another with love and affection to connect emotionally and physically.

Additionally, the research found that couples who had a bad sex life exhibit the absence of the above 13 things, with a combination of the following additional factors.

·     Spend very little time together during a typical week

·     Become job-centered / child-centered

·     Talk mostly about their huge to-do lists

·     Seem to make everything else a priority other than their relationship

·     Drift apart and lead parallel lives

·     Are unintentional about turning toward one another

Many of these couples spend only about 35 minutes together every week in a conversation, and most of their talk is about errands and tasks.

So, putting these two studies together, it shows us that couples should not disconnect from one another emotionally, but instead form 13 very simple habits to make their sex lives even better.